Our most important news

By JoAnne Young

I attended a newswriting seminar years ago in which one of the speakers said something I have carried with me to this day. The speaker was a newspaper columnist who said: The most important news of the day to people is what is said around the dinner table. 

So, fellow believers in Mayhem, here is the news of the week as reported at my house. 

 

My dahlias are looking great. My gazanias are being nibbled down by the rabbit living in my yard. It has chewed the petal tips off two bright yellow blooms and chomped on the leaves of some, reducing them to nubs. I thought the occasional foxes in the neighborhood may have kept the bunnies at bay, but they must have found a good hiding place. 

 

Our young grands were here this week, ages 11, 9 and 7, to stay with us while attending the Lincoln Children’s Zoo camp, a good dose of animal love eight hours a day for five days. They brought home news of Pebbles the penguin, Zuri the cheetah, Allie the giraffe, and that peacock roaming the grounds who is “the nice one.” 

 

I will admit to having not been a fan of zoos, for the most part because I feel badly for creatures sentenced to a cage rather than roaming the wild. But I understand the idea of zoos as places of conservation and protection and breeding arks for endangered species. I appreciate that Ellie, Max and Aila got close to penguins and giraffes and, my favorites, the goats, with those strangest of eyes that give them a 320-degree field of vision. And back home to Denver they went this weekend with stuffies from the gift shop, a snake and a red panda, and a tracking bracelet for Kira the gorilla, who is roaming free in Africa, somewhere near Rwanda. 

 

Other things I learned at the dinner table: 

* The 11-year-old only likes homemade pesto, not the Costco brand (with imported Italian basil), which I think is pretty good, and much easier than growing and picking my own Nebraska basil and buying pine nuts and fresh garlic cloves, red pepper flakes and grated parmesan cheese. Is Italian basil better than Nebraska basil? 

* Video games require kids to be hyper focused and can release high doses of dopamine. After a while, withdrawal can result in irritability, agitation and exhaustion. 

* Showers are boring. I couldn’t disagree with this one. They would be less boring if we could read in the shower, or use a new, wonderful soap fragrance each time, or have someone else wash our hair. 

* Benji (the star of the Benji movies) is safe to watch because Benji doesn’t die, and that particular little dog is smarter and more daring than any police detective and accomplishes everything without guns or other weapons. Suspend belief. 

* I could do all my birthday and Christmas shopping for these three grands at the zoo’s gift shop. Good to know.

 

Watching the kids this week at several of Lincoln’s colorful parks filled with slides and tire swings and some kind of new-fangled seesaw made me daydream about a playground for adults with tall slides and wide swings and high teeter-totters just for fun rather than for exercise. 

 

Electronic devices and screens were a constant source of attention this week. The kids don’t have phones but do have iPads that are used for reading, watching shows and playing Subway Surfers. Their father has put barriers on the iPads to limit access and time spent on all but the reading device. I had to make sure they were charged and the proper codes entered at the proper times. 

 

I have to admit my smart phone is somewhat addictive. It is programmed to be, with ever more updates to draw me to it. Lately, it lights up when I walk near it, to show me any new notifications that I just must see. It won’t be long until it will be calling me by name when I walk into the room. And my Ring doorbell will shout out, Hey, someone is walking by your front door.

 

A friend was telling me this week how much she likes to go the pool because it doesn’t change, it doesn’t update. It feels, looks and smells the same way it did when she was a kid. Comforting and relaxing and warm. 

 

Good news for parents whose adult children have moved across the country (that’s us). We had a visit from our daughter this past week, and tomorrow our oldest son will come from Los Angeles for a couple of days, and our youngest son is moving back to our area from Florida a few days later. 

 

Finally, our family news is thankfully not filled with politics this week, but as our country’s 250^th birthday approaches, I would like to give a shoutout to Supreme Court Justice Elana Kagan for her dissent in a decision that allowed Homeland Security to end temporary protected status to migrants from Haiti and Syria. She put Trump’s most racist and inflammatory remarks about Haitians into permanent record, and blasted her conservative colleagues (Huffpost, June 25), who said none of Trump’s or Homeland Security Secretary Kristi Noem’s were “overtly racist” or did not reflect racial bias. 

 

Kagan put those racist statements in the record: Trump said Haitians “probably have AIDS,” Haiti is a “shithole” country, Haitians are “poisoning the blood” of America, and Haitian immigration is like a “death wish for our country.”

 

The statements by the president are so repellent and racially inflected, Kagan said, that the majority declines to put them in print. But they “fairly shout, in their racial overtones and undertones alike, that race entered into the president’s resolve to remove Haitians from this country. ... Haitians are Black. The references—of filth, disease and primitiveness—are shot through with racial stereotypes and tropes.” 

 

There are better things to fill up our family news, but we can’t avoid the messy news from outside our neighborhood infiltrating our private lives. We have to keep those other dinner tables in mind. They need our attention, too. 

 

Wishing you and yours all good news in the next week and beyond. 

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